Hi everyone, it’s Friday again! Last week I examined a belief about how as a society we try to “do things” or “become things” that make us feel very important and valuable than the rest of the human race and in the process we create separation and hatred and wars. This week, I would like to examine how is it that you can even begin to feel important and valuable especially when your mind doesn’t think you ‘do’ anything important or valuable. So, here is my belief for this week.
Belief: I understand I should feel more valuable and important but how can I feel that way when I just work at the bottom of my organization and don’t yet earn a six figure salary or hold a big enough title!
I will be the first person to admit that this is a belief that created my thinking for a long time until I chose to go where the Universe wanted me to and opened my heart and mind to learning all the lessons that came with living my own life! And the biggest lesson I have learned so far in life (hands down) is that it doesn’t matter what you do or don’t do in life, it doesn’t matter what you become or not become, it doesn’t matter what you achieve or not achieve; what matters at the end of this life is whether you tried and whether you continued to love yourself and others through the trials and failures as much as you loved yourself and others for all the successes. That’s all that matters – loving yourself and others for all that you did or did not do, for all that you became or could not become, for all that you achieved or could not achieve, loving your life the way it turned out because for most of us, life doesn’t turn out the way we had imagined while growing up 🙂 – a buzzing career, 2 intelligent kids – one girl and one boy, a very understanding and loving spouse, very caring in-laws, big home, luxury car, exotic vacations etc. etc.
So, are you one of those people who feels insecure because you don’t ‘do’ anything important? Are you one of those who tried very hard but for whatever reason could never ‘do’ something important? Are you one of those who aspires to ‘do’ something important but don’t think you can do it just yet? If you are, let’s explore how is it that you can actually begin to feel important. So, if you work outside your home, in a job, or even if you stay home with kids, you must work with or come across people in your community all the time. Have you ever said a simple ‘hi’ to someone who you didn’t even know? Have you ever smiled to someone even though they may not have smiled back at you? Have you ever just listened to someone even though you didn’t understand a thing they were talking about? Have you ever given your colleague or friend a hug because of the sadness they were carrying in their heart? Have you ever appreciated your co-worker or friend for a job well done? You did, didn’t you? I bet you did but you never even thought that it mattered. Did you? These small gestures, no matter how insignificant they appear, these are the things that keep humanity alive and kicking! These are the small things that bring joy in everyone’s hearts regardless of the title they hold in a company. These are the things that matter, not the level that you work in any organization because that can change any day. Today you may work at the bottom and tomorrow you may be leading your own company or vice versa.
So, now do you also realize how truly amazing you are for doing every single one of the things that I just mentioned or maybe even much more? Do you realize how kind you are because the sadness in someone else’s heart touches the kindness in your own? Do you realize how loving you are because you open your heart when someone else needs you? Do you realize how inspiring you are because you cheer for someone when they need it the most? Do you realize how grateful you are because you thank someone for a small thing they did for you? I really hope you can see the truly amazing and valuable and important human being that you already are and you didn’t even need any big paychecks or fancy titles to do any of that 🙂
You know yesterday I visited my regular salon where I asked for the same person that I have gotten my eyebrows done from in the last one year. As she sat me down in the chair, I started to laugh as always about my almost non-existent eyebrows and she whispered to me in her accent, you know Shikha, you are such a beautiful person because you always laugh when I see you! To honor her statement, I just said thank you and we started to chat about what was going on in our respective lives. And as I left the salon, all I could think was what she had said to me and not just because she appreciated me but also because what she said was a reminder that we all have opportunities to touch each other, each other’s hearts, each other’s lives even if we only spend 5 minutes with them. You just have to believe that you have the power to do that, you are IMPORTANT enough to do that!!
And as always, feel free to leave a comment, if you feel like leaving one. And until next Friday, live life 🙂
